Rachael discusses Wedding Proposals on 2GB (Radio Interview)

2GB's, Susie Elelman,  chats with Rachael about getting the wedding proposal right and also her own proposal experience. 

https://soundcloud.com/deanbentick/new-years-eve-proposals-pros-and-cons

Roll up in a roll's-SYDNEY'S BEST WEDDING TRANSPORT turns 21

ROLL UP IN A ROLLS Celebrated their 21st birthday on Wednesday night (12/1/14) and not only did the owners, Tony & Mary also celebrated their 21st but also their 10th year of ownership of the business. Such lovely people who also run one of the best businesses in Sydney. Last night saw a mix of Wedding Industry Professionals but also lovely young couples who will be getting married in the near future. Lot of prizes were given away (including a $850 shoot pack from Inlighten) and lots of champers was sipped. Congrats to Roll Up on this amazing achievement. 

I was invited to talk and present on the importance of hiring good cars for your wedding.  
The rest of the photos from the night can be found here http://tinyurl.com/lqeqm67

  Rachael Bentick presenting to the Roll Up In A Rolls guests

Rachael Bentick presenting to the Roll Up In A Rolls guests

 Mary & Tony with the Roll Up In A Roll's Team

Mary & Tony with the Roll Up In A Roll's Team

 Rachael presenting on the importance of wedding cars

Rachael presenting on the importance of wedding cars

 Mary and Tony Tannous

Mary and Tony Tannous

 Over 40 Rolls Royces in the showroom

Over 40 Rolls Royces in the showroom

 Some of the great female wedding industry 

Some of the great female wedding industry 

 Time for a group shot of the guests

Time for a group shot of the guests

 The Roll Up team

The Roll Up team

 Rach and NC John Alten share a laugh on stage

Rach and NC John Alten share a laugh on stage

 An Engaged couple share a kiss in the back of  a Rolls

An Engaged couple share a kiss in the back of  a Rolls

8 Unusual Ways to be the Best Bridesmaid Ever

Everyone knows the Bridesmaid’s job is to walk down the aisle first, pretend she loves her outfit and to make sure the Bride’s dress is correctly fluffed. But there is actually a lot more to being a bridesmaid – especially if you truly are her best friend and want her to have the best day ever. So here are 8 ways you may not have thought of, to help your best friend have the wedding of her dreams.

 
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1. Clean up before the photographer arrives

Wet towels, discarded jeans and half eaten sandwiches do not make a good back drop for Bridal Preparation photos. So 15 minutes before the photographer is due to arrive, clean up the Bridal Suite and make sure it is ready for the photographer to start shooting the second he walks in. This will maximize the photographer’s time and ensure the Bride gets more photos, that are of a better quality.

2. Play diversion between warring parents

Today’s modern family often consists of at least one set of separated parents and multiple new partners. So when the time comes for the parents to join the First Dance, check to see if the Bride’s Dad is all alone on the carpet, while his ex-wife is carving up the dance floor with her new boyfriend. Invite him to dance with you, or if it’s the Mother of the Bride on her own, encourage either the Bride’s brother or one of the Groomsmen to do the same.

3. Get the dance floor pumping

Chances are the bride loves you because you are the life of the party, so this should be easy. No one wants a boring wedding where everyone sits at their tables. So make new friends, and invite them to dance with you on the dance floor. Extra points are awarded if you can bring different groups of friends together.

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4. Be on time and ready BEFORE the photographer arrives

If the bridal party is late or hair and make-up run late at the start of the day, this has a flow on effect for the entire day. The photographer has less time to take family photos at the home, the ceremony runs late, the photographer again has less time of location and sometimes has to change the intended locations for the photo shoot. Not only is the day hurried, but everyone is stressed. Make sure you run on time, and keep an eye on the hair and make up to ensure enough time is being allowed. Remember, you should be ready before the photographer arrives, NOT when the cars arrive.

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5. Play it safe with the speech

The best speeches are the perfect blend of heartfelt stories combined with sparkling wit. But if you’re not sure whether your wit is creeping over into “21st speech” cringe inducing embarrassment, then play it safe and just go for heartfelt. Today is about bringing joy to the Bride and Groom, not bringing up a past flame or creating awkward scenes.

6. Make sure the Bride eats

A combination of nerves and achieving the perfect lip line will probably mean that by the end of the ceremony the Bride is starving! So pack her some easy to nibble snacks to have on the location shoot, sandwiches cut into finger slices are a great, mess free option. She will also have selected canapés that she enjoys, so pop one in her hand while she’s mid conversation and make sure she doesn’t miss out. Plus, a bit of food will help to absorb all the celebratory glasses of bubbles, and keep her on her feet during the bridal waltz!

7. Plastic bags be thy enemy

Nothing looks worse than plastic bags being carried by the Bridal party for all those bulky essential items such as flat shoes, jackets and gifts. If you are going to give the Bride a meaningful gift and would like the moment photographed, carry it to her in a gift bag and ensure she does the same. Candid moments are essential in today’s style of photography, which means you could be captured at any moment. Remove all plastic bags!

8. Be happy!

Today is the supposed to be the happiest day of your best friend’s life, but how can she be happy if her best friend is not happy? Leave any personal problems at home, put on a huge smile and no matter what issues occur throughout the day, remind her that today is all about marrying the man she will be spending the rest of her life with. That’s what matters most.

Rachael Bentick
Inlighten Photography




5 things I've learned from 1,000 weddings

March marks the biggest month in Australia for weddings. But if you're not thote next Katherine Heigl in the movie "21 Dresses", then you may need a little assistance when it comes to planning your big day. 

So here is what I have learned from 1,000 weddings - and it may not be what you expect!

1. You should never plan your wedding on Pinterest.

Nothing sets up a bride for failure like a good pair of Pinterest Goggles,convincing us that we cn DIY anything from 6 tier wedding cakes to million dollar receptions. It can be wonderful, but can also set the bar too high with wildly unrealistic expectations.

2. Seeing your bride or groom on the wedding day wont doom the marriage.

This tradition (or superstition) has been ferociously upheld for so long you'd be forgiven that it came from the bible. But seeing your spouse before the wedding will not result in a tragic accident and prevent a happily-ever-after. In fact, couples spend so little time together on their wedding day that seeing each other before the ceremony is actually a great idea.

3. The old quote "Never work with Kids and Animals" is false.

When it comes to beautiful photos that tell a story on your wedding day, nothing matches the honesty and cuteness factor of small children.  They interact with your guests and family members and are often a great source of tension relief with their playfulness and sense of fun.

4. It's true that rain on your wedding day is good luck.

And looks amazing in your photos! On an overcast day the lighting on your skin is soft and makes your skin glow in the photos. Plus bring a long a set of matching white umbrellas and the rain will give you unique photos that none of your friends have.

5. Make it grand!

Hopefully your wedding day is something you'll only being doing once. So if you've got a dream, go out and do it! Your wedding is the one day in your life you can really make your dreams come true.

Don't fall prey to Wedding Proposal Mania this Valentine's Day!

Valentine’s Day, Hallmark Day, Forever Alone Day… call it what you like, February 14 is without doubt the most popular day of the year for starry-eyed lovers across the globe to declare their affection for one another. And naturally, it’s also one of the most popular days of the year for wedding proposals.

But love-struck men be warned! If you're looking to pop the question dont fall prey to the ever-growing phenomenon that is The Modern (over-the-top, embarrassing and very public) Wedding Proposal.   

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It seems as though a day can’t pass without the world-wide circulation of some cringe-inducing ‘my proposal is more epic than your proposal’ extravaganza in the form of a viral YouTube video.  And thanks to the abundance of flash mobs, enlisted celebrities and Boys II Men lip-syncing, wedding proposals have become big business. In fact, some soon-to-be-grooms are spending more money on the proposal than the big day itself.

But when did it become so acceptable to turn an intimate and significantly personal moment into such a public theatrical performance? And when the old ‘dinner and roses’ gig doesn’t cut it anymore, what’s the average guy to do?

If you’re planning to pop the question this Valentine’s Day, you don’t need brass bands and fireworks to impress your bride-to-be. Here are my Do’s and Don’ts for turning Valentine’s Day into your Proposalversary, without all the hype and hoopla:

Don’t:

1.      Alarm The Potential Bride

With the enlisted help of professional stuntmen and makeup artists, a Russian gentleman by the name of Alexey Bykov elaborately faked his own death through a fake car accident. After ‘playing dead’ for a short time, he sprung to life again and popped the question to his sobbing and distraught girlfriend. Gentlemen let this be a lesson - upsetting your bride for the sake of theatrics is just not worth it.

 2.       Jeopardize The Ring

When Reed Harris asked Kaitlin Whipple to marry him by offering it to her in a Wendy’s milkshake, he certainly didn’t expect her to swallow it (http://nydn.us/LJ5igA). Hiding rings in cakes, fortune cookies and balloons are a big no-no - you wouldn’t believe how often this results in an accident or close call, so don’t risk it!

3.    Do it on a Ferris-Wheel, Hot Air Balloon or Anywhere Else You Can’t Escape

Why not you ask? Because in the unfortunate case she says no, things are going to get pretty uncomfortable. The best proposals are done in simple yet meaningful locations, whether it’s the city grocery store where you first met, or a late night Chinese restaurant that you both love – just make sure you have an escape plan if all goes pear-shaped.

Do:

1.   Propose In Private.

While love-struck blokes continue to raise the bar on popping the question, leaving women across the globe with some seriously unrealistic expectations, we’re left wondering. If a wedding proposal isn’t uploaded to YouTube for the pleasurable viewing by millions of strangers, did it really even happen? It can be tempting to share your creative genius and big romantic gesture with the entire world, but I can promise you - while there’s nothing quite like turning your engagement into a giant half-time show, the average bride-to-be won’t appreciate an audience. Ask a friend or hire a professional photographer to discreetly document the proposal instead by taking a quick snap that you can both keep forever.

2.   Keep It Brief.

Unless you’ve been living under a rock you’ve probably seen the infamous YouTube video of Justin Baldoni popping the question in a production rivalling a Hollywood blockbuster (http://bit.ly/1crqUUu).  Not only can some of the greatest moments in embarrassing internet videos be found here, the proposal itself goes for 27 minutes. Justin manages to incorporate a radio interview, three homemade music videos, a homemade movie trailer and a flash mob into his proposal (or rather, performance). This is unnecessary and over-the-top proposing at its best. 

Today Show - Rachael Bentick chats with Karl on Wedding Etiquette

Karl Stefanovic sat down with Rachael Bentick today to discuss Guests etiquette at a wedding. In particular, where and when to take photos of the couple and the rules on posting them online.

Click the screen grab to view the interview.

 

Rachael Bentick chats with Karl on the Today Show and bout Wedding Etiquette and Social Media at Weddings. What guests should and shouldn't do.

To Change or Not To Change?

A rose by any other name would still smell as sweet – but if you wanted to google the rose, you’d never be able to find it! 

So in today’s modern world of careers, late marriages and even later babies, is there still a need for brides to take on the surnames of their husband?

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Personally, I went from a boring but pretty normal “Turner” to an unusual and slightly rude sounding “Bentick” (I actually have one friend who continues to book restaurants under “Bent-dick”).

And here is the tricky bit. You might find a name kind of humorous, but your new family members will know the proud origins of the name and have grown up with it over generations – so don’t make jokes about it around the dinner table, I found that one out the hard way… 

General consensus was hyphenating my name wasn’t an option. “Turn-a Bentick” or “Bentick Turner”, neither were good options.

So as a bride, what should you consider before changing your name?

1.       If you don’t like your last name, is this a great chance to get a new one?

2.      Can you finally get a gmail address without a number in it?

3.      Your kids will have a different surname to you. (I must admit, there have been times of tantrum in the supermarket when I’ve wished this was the case!)

OK, I’m kidding. Not all of these are real factors in deciding whether to take on your husband’s name (I’ll let you decide which ones aren’t.)

But after all the objective arguments have been put forward, it really boils down to a pretty emotional decision. How strongly do you and your husband feel about you taking on his name?

I remember discussing changing my name with my future husband Dean as we walked along Bondi Beach. I’d always been very strong willed and independent, and thought I would never change who I am, or what my name was, for a man. But then he explained why he wanted to marry me, so that we would be together as a family and that people would know that I was his wife.  Suddenly all my justifications of independence seemed at odds with our decision to get married.

We’d been living together for a number of years at that stage and had discussed what would actually change once we were married?  To both now have the same family name seemed like a significant change in the relationship and a noticeable difference that would continue once the flowers had faded.

Eleven years on from our wedding, I still have an undeniable urge to take a selfie with street signs or pubs that feature my maiden name Turner.  And when my son screws his nose up like my Dad, I still call him a Turner.  So the Turner family part of me will always be there. But now, I get the honour of being a Bentick as well, and creating our own little family.

PS -  According to google maps, there is no Bentick Street in NSW. Please let me know if anyone finds one! 

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Memoirs of a Bridesmaid

As I look around our studio at the photos of brides happily posing with their closest girlfriends, I find myself reflecting on the memories I have as a bridesmaid. The connection, the shared experiences, the fun and the acknowledgement that these are the most important women in their life.

With so much of the focus of a wedding being on the bride (well, I guess this is fair enough!) the second most critical person to the running of the day is sometimes forgotten.  And while he is definitely playing a larger role, you already know I'm not talking about the groom.

In fact chances are you probably met your groom more recently than your bridesmaids, and he certainly wasn't the one whose shoulder you cried on after you and the jerk from the year above you at school broke up, or helped push up your cleavage in preparation for a night on the town!

 Sophie with her bridesmaids

Sophie with her bridesmaids

Your bridesmaids are those special friends who you want to kill because they give you their honest opinion, but who also know when a little white lie will go a long way (of course you can wear my dress, we are exactly the same size.)

They are also the ones who are the most happy for you that you have found the man of your dreams, and who are committed to doing whatever it takes to make your big day perfect for you.

And so it was that driving rain and the Friday night call of the couch was no match for the Rachel Gilbert warehouse sale. And wow what an experience. Frenzied brides and dutiful bridesmaids as far as the eye could see.  Naked women packed tightly into a small room, squeezing their bodies into intricately beaded designs – it sounds like something you’re more likely to see at a bucks party!

There was no elegant champagne or lilting laughter. Just dozens of women, doing their best to do the right thing by their friend, and score a bargain dress.

I don’t care who you are, trying on 15 sample size dresses is not good for the soul, well, maybe the soul of your running shoe as you make a firm decision to hit the gym - tomorrow.

But the bridesmaid’s duties do not end at dress selection. There’s the bride’s dress fittings to attend. Production of the multi-layered invitations over a bottle or two of Cab Sav.  Attendance at bridal expos, florists, stylists and of course organization of the Hen’s Party.  Then come the day, I can clearly remember lifting the hoop on my friends gown so she could inch into the toilet sideways, and…  well, let’s leave that story there.

Bridesmaids duties are endless with recognition of a job well done being an inclusion in the best man's speech of “How hot do the bridesmaids look!” and probably a quick bum squeeze later on the dance floor if you’re lucky.  So why do we do it?

Because there is only one thing worse than being asked to be a bridesmaid – and that’s not being asked.

 Ruth with her closest friends

Ruth with her closest friends

What does "reasonably good looking" mean?

Last Tuesday I received a marriage proposal... of sorts... I had just finished giving a seminar to wedding photographers and over the course of the night, had divulged a little of my business background. On a 'high', feeling like I had appeared professional and knowledgeable, I was quickly brought back down to earth when an attendee made the comment "Wow, I would marry you. You know accounting, marketing and social media - and you're "reasonably good looking".  

Reasonably good looking?  

When did the word "reasonably" come into play?  

In a week where "playing the gender card" has been a huge source of contention, I found myself feeling reasonably pissed off by the fact that I actually cared more about what this guy thought of my looks, than I did about what he thought of my professional skills.  Especially when on this occasion I had actually found time to slap on some make up and crank up the hair straightener!

So while lying on the beautician's table getting my eyebrows waxed (metaphorically speaking I wasn't going to take this lying down!) I had time to consider, how will my life change now that my common adjective was no longer Smokin'?

Should I give up, donate my low cut Supre tops to the Salvos, pull on the tracky dacks and just hope that my intellect will pull me through the rest of life?  Or could I come to terms with a new middle ground?

Well, I'm still trying to decide on the answers. But it did give me reason to look back on my wedding photos from 11 years ago and feel pretty good about how incredible I looked on that day, and about the life I've lead that has brought me to today. No missed opportunities, few regrets and a husband that I am still in love with today (ok, maybe a little less the day after State of Origin...)

Our wedding day was perfect for us. There is no other time in your life that you get the opportunity to be pampered guilt free, chose the dress of your dreams and spend 6 months working towards looking the absolute best you can for that one specific day.

And now, 11 years and 2 kids later, I'm so glad I did it. Hopefully, you wont get another shot at your wedding, so go all out and book your favourite hair stylist, the top make up artist and the photographer you love the most.  Go with your heart and look your best - cause 10 years later when you hear the word "reasonably", you'll be so glad you did.

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